Choose Your Path


Just a simple midnight note to answer so many questions on my blog, formspring, twitter, and even real life, about how does it feel to be homeschooled. What is homeschooling? Why do you choose homeschooling instead of public / regular school? Do you miss your friends? How do you interact socially? Don’t you miss having a normal social life?

5 years ago, homeschooling was quite a breakthrough in Indonesia’s education program, though it wasn’t a new thing in other countries, actually it is pretty common and it started long time ago. Thank God for my open-minded parents, they did a lot of research of homeschooling & some schools here starting to support that program. For regular school & homeschooling, I’m not saying one of those is better than the other. For everyone have a different potentials, different needs, not every kids could be convenient with homeschooling, and vice versa.

Nothing is wrong with learning outside school building. Some people relate homeschooling with ‘quitting school’ or even a harsh word ‘uneducated’, just because we learn outside your usual school buildings. In fact, people learn every single day in their lives until they die. In homeschooling itself, there are still a few options and curriculums. I took full homeschooling, my parents do the teaching & customise the curriculum that fits me and my interests.

Do I miss my school friends? The answer is yes. Sometimes, a lot. They said high school times are the most precious, I felt lucky to be in it even just for 2 years. I was one weirdo in high school back then. Too quiet to be a popular student, but not too quiet to do weird and unusual things with my dysfunctional best friends (writing this brought back the memories of my high school, by the way). Sometimes we got too close that we walked together (literally together …well, we tied our shoelaces, four of us) across the field to the canteen while everyone were eating normally. We did indescribable stuffs. 

My school years were awesome. When I decided to take homeschooling, it was really hard. I wasn’t sure if I was old enough to take one important crossroads in my life, but I felt really glad to have a super supportive parents. And it was hard to be apart from my friends. We promised to stay in touched. But it still felt different. We got too busy with our own stuffs that we didn’t have any chance to meet at all. I have to study alone while everyone was tagging pictures on their school yearbook. I miss school pranks. I didn’t go to prom. But I regret nothing.

Being homeschooled didn’t alienate me. It forced me to get out of my little-shy-girl shell, I adapted to new situation, new environment. I met new friends, new people from different places, and of course, learned a lot of new things. I have a normal social life, maybe in even wider range than I could imagine. We choose our own path. I was wondering what if I chose different path than what I’m having now. I might haven’t find a way to overcome my shyness. I might never try to blog. I might never brave enough to take a step and start a business. I might have done something else. Who knows. The most important thing is, I enjoy every single decision I took, and never regretting any of them. Adapting from John Lennon’s sayings, I believe: the time you enjoy learning was not wasted. :)

me and my little brother, circa 2009. We were both homeschooled. :) 




PS. I also received some curious questions like “What’s making you ‘so busy’ until you decided to quit regular school?”, and some of them are cynically asking “Why are you taking homeschooling instead of regular school? Who do you think you are, some kind of celebrity?” I might ask you to get up from your couch, stop watching Indonesian’s infotainment and start googling. :)) Homeschooling doesn’t *only* belong to Indonesian’s celebrities and their kids. But that is one good alternative. In fact, Thomas Alva Edison was homeschooled too (no, he wasn’t a celebrity). He was homeschooled because the teacher said he was stupid and not like all other kids in the class. Well who knows that ‘difference’ was a sign of world’s famous inventor. :) most of all, be wise enough not to look down on people by their education level, because the most essential thing in any school is to find our passion, potencials & specialities on what we love, in any possible methods, because we are not a bunch of robots created to do the same thing. Each of us are unique, therefore there’s no exact determination of how smart or how stupid people are, the only measurement we can trust is how much are you willing to learn, because no man is too old or too smart to stop learning. :)

Anyway, here is one inspiring blogger I adore, which is also a mom of 4 lovely homeschooled kids, stalk her blog in the meantime!

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27 comments

  1. "I enjoy every single decision I took, and never regretting any of them" agree about your post Son (Y)



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  2. ucuuul, i can describe you with a thousand words but uneducated. You're the most admirable and multi talented 19(soon to be20) years old girl i've ever known. as the wisemen said, you need to develop your talents before it's too late. i also admired your parents so much(you know how much i love tante mega lol) , they're the coolest parents you could ever have. My parents are the typical old school family, they forced me to go to the best school in town, the harder the lessons the better it will be. i wish i could pursue my happiness as early as you but anyway, we're living our dreams now! i wish you nothing but the best for your future and i wish those people who look down at you just because you have the guts to pursue your own happiness earlier than the rest of us, could talk to you face to face for an hour or two. *bighug* you need no science class to sing and sociology class to socialize with the coolest people in town. last but not least i miss you so much ucul
    with the biggest long distance hug,
    -your pain in the ass with the same level of craziness as you bestfriend

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  3. we choose our own path! yeah i agree with you sonia , let we choose our own path not someone else , enjoy every single decision you took? yeah i know what you feel , and yes we don't have to regret anything :) keep spirit sonia! i agree with you <3

    what a great post:)

    This is real and This is me

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  4. if you choose to be homeschooled then how can you get into university later? can you enlist into SPMB (seleksi penerimaan mahasiswa baru)? homeshcooling it's completely a new concept to me.

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  5. @jacobian: we can always join ujian paket just like public school :)

    @cindy: I MISS YOU SO MUCH TOO! :(

    @ add & rimma: thank you girls! :)

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  6. people who always look down on people by their education level is the people without education and low knowledge. :)
    what a great post sonia!

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  7. Nice words and nice share Sonia..:) I love open-minded people and i really respect your parents for being so supportive of their children..:) It's a nice thing to know well what we chose and not regretting it..:D

    Not all choices is all good and positive, there're always negative side of what we chose, but how we walk in our choice is the one that made our choice feels lighter and right..:d

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  8. Let's see the fact.
    Many youth in our age (19-20) outside there are still student (including me). Go to campus everyday...

    We're nothing without parents. We couldn't make money yet. Our wallet depends on our dad's wallet.

    AND YOU?
    as a homeschooled girl?
    Now, you're working. You have many job. You make your own money. You're succes. Many people inspired by you.

    I don't have idea who the hell said that being homeschooled is not good.


    Itu pikiran apa sempak anak-anak?
    sempit banget.


    Well, just for more comparison, kebanyakan pengusaha-pengusaha sukses bukan lulusan universitas. Dan lucunya, kebanyakan PEKERJA/BAWAHAN mereka itu malah lulusan universitas.

    Contoh ya...
    yang punya Mall-mall besar di Indonesia (misal di Padang) itu bahkan enggak tamat SMA lho. PEKERJANYA ada tuh yang S1 manajemen.

    so??


    keep it up, Sonn.
    Just let that trashy robots talk. They know nothing, I think.


    Pada punya kaca nggak sih itu dirumah? Mending kalo mereka lebih sukses ya.. masih masuk akal lah ngerendahin orang kayak gitu ._.

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  9. Btw so sorry for my messy english. haha

    As a 2nd year university student, I think my english is still a mess X))

    I learn english from many blogs, including your blog, soonn. do u believe it?
    haha

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  10. This is really one inspiring post regarding a field that not many bloggers expose: homeschooling--and it's a great information, thank you.

    By the way, i truly agree with what you said that you can't force someone to take one path because there are many alternatives that might match one's needs better. Learning a few critical and cultural studies in my college years, i now know that our education system is flawed, and i'm not talking about Indonesia only, but in other parts of the world as well. Many schools are just stucked with the "old ways", old traditions, and therefore, old perspectives. Girls have to cook, boys have to play sports. It doesn't go all the way around, especially in Indonesia, and it's irrational when you think of it.

    Sorry for the superlong comment (i should make a post in a post! haha) but your story makes me wonder, in a good way. Not many bloggers could spark critical discussion.

    I'm not homeschooled, by the way.


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  11. there's nothing wrong with homeschooling student :) don;t listen to them :D
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  12. hello kak sonia ^_^ been a follower for a while and i finally post a comment bahahah

    this post is REALLY inspiring! and i kinda envy you so MUCH like you have this 'freedom' to do and focus on something you like or passionate about. i'm only 15 and i feel so stressed under the pressure of school; choosing IPA/IPS, people's judgement about universitas negeri/swasta, what degree will you choose (and the teachers are expecting Engineering, Mathematics, Architecture.. which I HATE, A LOT), and i can't properly do something i actually like. and i might continue studying 'formally' in college/university; which sounds exhausting and time-wasting to me.

    You're almost 20 and you've owned some businesses, make your own money, and most of all, do what actually you like. At that age other girls are probably still dealing with college tasks or thesis.

    Those people who said that you're an 'uneducated' person for studying in a home-school, look at you now. At least you enjoy what you do and -well we can't deny- you get paid for it ;)

    kak sonia, fighting! :D thank you for being such an inspiration.

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  14. waw. another side of sonia eryka
    honestly, you are one of some who inspire me in creating a beautiful blog :}
    so keep on blogging!
    and keep on fighting in this amazing woooooorld!
    yeaaay~

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  15. hai sonia....
    u are admireable....dan ga masalah tuh km homeschooled apa regular school...aq uda tau dr pertama buka blog ini...
    dan memang agak gatel sama pertanya2an di instagrammu yg nanya "km ga sekolah koq jalan2 terus?"
    waktu itu pengen jawab sih...but then I think better u urself answer that "s**ly" questions..

    hehehe
    keep up the good work preety ;)
    Gbu

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  17. It's okay to choose homeschooling dear.
    You have everything that maybe many people don't have

    Are they envy or what? :p

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  18. As a teacher who teach home-schooling kids too, I couldn't agree more with you, Sonia... I see my kids with their own talents and interests, I always provide them with different ways to learn based on their talents and interests, but to reach the same goal: to be independent to face and tackle problems, in real life.

    "Every one is a genius, but if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." -Albert Einstein-

    A really nice post :)

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  19. Sonia akhirnya mengeluarkan suara, sebelumnya di twitter juga uda sempet di "BANG" in banget soal home schooling.
    sekarang disini punn :"D

    thankyou son,
    for became such an inspiring to others, especially you gave kinda impact towards me.
    Look at you... you don't even graduate from university yet in this young age you could make money, and of course you love what you do that's matter.

    so many ppl outthere just stuck in by what their parents wanted them to.
    glad for you to had sucha supportive parents!

    IM HOME SCHOOLER , same like you i was in senior high school before, for just 2 years and went to home schooling in the third years.
    i do have my own reason for it, and expecting that i could be as success as you.

    Anyway son, you might do not remember me but
    KITA PERNAH BERTEMU SEBELUMNYA SON :"))))
    Yeahhh we did, and u also must know that some of my friends were your friends too.
    can't believe it huh? i did. im so shocked by first.

    ini voto waktu kita sempet ketemuuuu Sonnn, inget gak? Hahahahahahah.
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  20. Sonia akhirnya mengeluarkan suara, sebelumnya di twitter juga uda sempet di "BANG" in banget soal home schooling.
    sekarang disini punn :"D

    thankyou son,
    for became such an inspiring to others, especially you gave kinda impact towards me.
    Look at you... you don't even graduate from university yet in this young age you could make money, and of course you love what you do that's matter.

    so many ppl outthere just stuck in by what their parents wanted them to.
    glad for you to had sucha supportive parents!

    IM HOME SCHOOLER , same like you i was in senior high school before, for just 2 years and went to home schooling in the third years.
    i do have my own reason for it, and expecting that i could be as success as you.

    Anyway son, you might do not remember me but
    KITA PERNAH BERTEMU SEBELUMNYA SON :"))))
    Yeahhh we did, and u also must know that some of my friends were your friends too.
    can't believe it huh? i did. im so shocked by first.

    ini voto waktu kita sempet ketemuuuu Sonnn, inget gak? Hahahahahahah.
    { http://lilshelullabies.blogspot.com/2012/07/sonia-eryka.html }

    -LiLshe. been years followed your blog yet just today i had post a comment in your blog. :D

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  21. Hello Sonia! I just read this post and to be honest, this post is inspired me and related to my life. After read this post, i made my own (http://bearwiththehat.blogspot.com/2013/01/got-inspired-want-to-inspire-being.html)It isn't about homeschooling, but still related with education issue.

    it's sucks to be questioned about our decision (especially if it is an unusual ones), but believe that we know what's best for ourself will help us a lot

    Good luck for you, and thanks for being one of my inspiration ;)

    Regards

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  22. if blog has favorite button like twitter, i've pushed it 100 times for this post!

    this what "taking risk for better change" means, and see..you did it!

    stay inspiring sonia :)

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  23. this completely answers my questions that i have wondered "why choose homeschooling?" & i think homeschooling is good way or even better than public school.

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  24. thankyou for sharing kak, seriously this is the most inspiring post so far. keep the faith kak, God bless:)

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  25. super inspiring post! you are one of those examples which tell people that regular students do not make it any better to homeschooling students ;D

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  26. at some part, this post is heart-breaking. realizing that it hurts to leave high school. but glad to know you enjoy it, son. good luck and carry on!

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  27. yeah I never know your real story before & I never know that you was shy. All I know is you're awesome Son! Hopefully I can do like you, live my life on my own path:)

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